Messy Day

I work part-time in a large church with the toddlers. I work two services on Sunday mornings and one on Wednesday evening. There are anywhere from 10-20 toddlers depending. I have some regulars that I am super attached to - and it's fun to see them excited to see me week after week. I usually have 2-3 helpers in the room with me (one adult and one or two teen helpers), although on two or three occasions I have been by myself. Luckily on those nights I have had 10 or less toddlers (and 10 or less diapers to change!). Okay, I love, love, love the toddlers, I think they are such a fun age group (walking - 24 months for reference).

(just fyi, I may ramble a bit in this entry)

So a few of my friends also work for this church with the children. We mainly rely on volunteers to assist week after week, but there are 10 of us on paid staff. One of them is a guy named S. S just turned 20 and we all went out to celebrate his birthday with him. S is super funny and I think a cute guy (although he is very overweight). Now S lives with his mom and his brother J. Both J and the mom also work part-time in childrens with us. Both S and J have never had girlfriends, are high school drop outs, don't have driver's licenses and live at home with mom. Mom works full-time in a daycare (think k!nderc@re type of place) and both boys work there full time as well. Anyhow, both S and J are good kids, they are a little immature and like playing video games. S has recently asked me to help him study for his GED as well as to learn how to drive (their mom is super, super overprotective btw).

Okay, hmmm, rambling . . . so I have this one toddler in my class, Steph@nie. She is there both services on Sunday and every Wednesday. She is the cutest thing ever and the biggest tomboy. She has three sisters, ages 4, 5 and 6. She also has a baby brother on the way, due in November. The parents are nice, young and . . . I don't know too much about them except they are excited to be having their first boy. The girls are well-taken care of and the parents seem to love them. They don't seem to have much money, but the girls are always clean and cared for.

Okay, so back to S - he works sometimes in the 4 yeard old room and sometimes in the 5 year old room (we have rooms for each age group, then once they hit kindergarten they go upstairs, for up to 4th graders).

Anyhow, yesterday this family's 4 year old daughter accused S of molesting her. . . and I just can't wrap my mind around it. I know that you are supposed to believe the child first, but I also know that he is my friend and I . . . I don't even know. I can't even imagine anytime that he has ever been alone in a classroom with this child.

So yeah, I know this and I can't talk to anyone about it. S doesn't know he has been accused yet. He texted me this morning and told me that the director and head p@stor called him into a meeting this afternoon and wondered why. . . and I couldn't say anything to him. I just . . . yeah. I mean if it is true, if it really happened, that is one thing. But if it didn't, and his life is turned upside down for nothing? Ugh, it all just sucks and no matter how it turns out . . . it won't be good. Either something happened to this 4 year old (either S or someone else) or the family is looking for a way to make money.

I don't want to think the family is lying, but I also don't want to think my friend (who is like a little brother to me) could do something like this . . . mainly I would like to be able to just not think.

2008-10-07 at 10:22 a.m.